should i wait? or should i talk to him

by Andrea
(Kentucky)

I’ve been going out with this guy not for long at all (2 months) but we have been seeing each other for a while. and ive started the pill about a month ago and literally have been taking everything out on him as a result of it. I become so angry over the dumbest things and not taking the time to listen to him or anything and jumping to my own conclusions.

One night i got so upset because i thought he was going to stay with me after work to hang out but he didnt, he just popped by and then hung out wih his friends after. I shouldnt have got angry at him for that because he had no idea i wanted to hang out after. I got really upset and sent him very cruel messages saying that i want to go on a break and after no reply i said that maybe it was better off we were friends.

The next day we caught up to talk about this i asked him what he wanted? and after awhile he said that he thinks that its best we break up because if we continue he will keep fucking it up because he doesnt know when he is being a dick. This is when it hit me that i did not want to break up with him at all, so i told him that i really liked him and i wanted us to work through it and this is when he said we should go on a break. We agreed for it to be for 2 weeks and it has only been 4 days since but i am going crazy.

On that night that we decided to go on a break, after having alone time to think about it all i realised that it wasnt him who was being a dick and that it was me who was causing all the trouble and making him feel like one. i messaged him saying sorry and explained to him that i havent been myself and i am sorry that i made him feel at fault.

the next day i spoke to him on chat and asked him if i could possibly see him before the 2 weeks and he replied saying that it might be less than 2 weeks but he'll let me know when

so my question to you eda is that do you think he wants to break up with me? and should i give him his space until he messages?
thank you xx

Dear Andrea,

Damn girl, you really know how to woo a guy dontcha? I’m not sure how old you guys are but it doesn’t really matter. You were a nagging bitch and quite frankly men don’t like them; they despise them! If you weren’t the one to mention a break, I’m sure he would have sooner or later.

Could your behavior be blamed on the pill? Hmm, that I’m not sure of. Never affected me that way, but everyone is different and I am no doctor.

So, does he want to break up with you? If he had no qualms about the break, you simply made his job that much easier. Like you said, it’s only been two months and if you have been acting like an idiot for half of the time, who blames him?

Don’t contact him again; you will only appear desperate. If your lucky enough for him to get in touch with you, do what ever it takes to make it up to him (if you know what I mean ;) and take steps to changing why you act the way you do.

If he doesn’t get a hold of you, well then you need to chalk it off as a lesson learned and not make the same mistake again in the future. This first step in changing our bad behaviors is recognizing it.

Most people never change because they don’t believe there is a problem, or they think the problem lies with everyone but them. You’re one step closer than most people Andrea and that’s a good thing. Now comes the work…

Keep me posted and if you need help I am always here…