How to Catch a Cheater
Want to know how to catch a cheater? You can’t just blurt out, “Is there someone else?” They are certainly not going to righteously admit it if there is. You have to be as sneaky, if not more so, than they are. It’s time for a little secret-squirrel action yourself. Get creative and possibly get some outside help.
The cell phone is of utmost importance. You must get a hold of it. It may take a while, because if they are the type that normally doesn’t leave it lying around then it will be hard to pry it from their death grasp. But it is possible. If the opportunity arises, pounce on it. You think people would have learned by now, but unfortunately for them, cell phones can contain a lot of incriminating evidence. It may take time, but the opportunity will arise. Take it! Don’t be afraid because fear is not going to tell what you need to know. Just take precautions not to get caught in the process. If their phone happens to go missing for a day, play it off and don’t be weird about it. Then the next day, once you have retrieved the ammo you need to confirm your suspicions, let the phone “turn up”, unbeknown to you of course. Let’s say they call and tell you (again) that they have to work late. O.K... it is possible that they are just working late. However, if you suspect other extra curricular activities, maybe you should pay them a visit. Get some take out and surprise them with dinner at the office. Think they are having afternoon delights or late night rendezvous at home while you’re at work? Hopefully you can take some personal time and leave early for the day (or play sick in order to get out of work) and "surprise" them. After all it’s about doing things you wouldn’t normally do, or what they wouldn’t expect you to do anyway. How to catch a cheater by doing a little surveillance work on your own. That is if your schedules allow you to. Get your best friend to help; two heads are always better than one. Go incognito in your friend’s car that they will not know or recognize and follow them around for a week or two. Plus it’s a lot cheaper than paying a private investigator. On the other hand, if your situation calls for a PI make sure you do your research; you want to be sure they can be trusted and report back to you with accuracy. 
Think they may be cheating online? It's easy to catch a cheater this way, especially if this is where the two of you met. Already know where to find their profile that should have long been deleted by now? Time to create another profile for yourself under a pseudonym that will catch their interest. Find a hot picture online and use it for your profile (something, someone I should say, from a hairstyling site should do) and start flirting. If they flirt back and start talking to their new found friend (YOU) then I think you have your answer. Once you know how to catch a cheater and succeed, they will try to defend themselves. Oh yes, they will try to make it seem like they are “just making friends” or keeping in touch with old ones. Even if they are not meeting up with people, these things could constitute emotional cheating which is just as damaging and unacceptable as doing the funky monkey with someone else. Now that you know how to catch a cheater and you have found out what you need to know (although you will not want to believe that anything you found is true) you have to take some time in order to sort all of this out; everything you’ve learned; everything you’ve seen and heard with your own eyes and ears; everything thing that confirms that you are not going berserk; and decide whether it may be time to leave this “relationship.” There are many ways on how to catch a cheater; you just have to think outside the box. Never, and I mean never, let them know you are suspicious. Only show your cards when you are sure, otherwise, they will just get better at hiding things from you. And always remember, your gut is there for a reason and it never lies to you. So, once you have the information that you need, what do you do with it? Are you really ready to stop listening and believing their lame excuses? Are you ready to take it for what it is? Are you ready to just walk away? Leave How to Catch a Cheater, Return to Relationship Questions Return to Love Sources Home from How to Catch a Cheater New! CommentsHave your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below. |
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