Help I think I have a gay boyfriend!Dear Eda,I think I have a gay boyfriend. We have been dating now for about six months. Sex has been pretty good, and a while back he wanted to have anal sex. I thought it was ok at first. But now he would rather do that than the regular way. It is starting to feel a little weird. Plus he spends a lot of time with his best friend, who I know has never liked me, and he never defends me when the friend is around. His friend is actually pretty mean to me whenever all of us hang out together. The icing on the cake is he recently got his tongue pierced. I didn’t think that was a guy thing? Am I just being paranoid here or do I have a gay boyfriend?
Anal sex can be a good thing. It’s always good to try different things to keep the spark alive. However, complete substitution for the “real thing” is never good. If your boyfriend prefers to go in through the out door on a regular basis, I would be worried too. If he isn’t gay, trust me, he would want to hear your kitty purr more often. Besides that, if you are not comfortable with something, don't do it! Further, last time I checked, a tongue piercing is usually something women do. It is meant to enhance that special spot on a man when giving oral sex. (Of course this would pertain to gay men also) Most piercing’s have a sexual reason behind them. I do not know of, nor have I heard of any sexual enhancement that a woman can receive from a tongue piercing. As far as his “best friend”, from what you have shared, it seems your boyfriend is very submissive when it comes to this guy that treats you so bad. If they were truly friends, (1) the friend would not over step his boundaries; (2) your “boyfriend” would stand up for you as long as you were not doing anything wrong and not being a bitch. Whatever problems “your guy” has with his sexuality (obviously many) don’t make them your own. It’s only been six months; get out while you can. Although it may be embarrassing at first, at least you can still keep your dignity without many people finding out about it, if any. Six months is far better than six years after a marriage and children. And it’s only a matter of time (hopefully) before he comes to terms with himself and comes out of the closet; don’t allow this to happen at your expense. I’m sorry sweetie, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I am afraid you do have a gay boyfriend. Best of luck, Eda Leave Gay Boyfriend, Return to the Relationship Problem Advice New! CommentsHave your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below. |
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