I Think I Love my Best Friend

I think I'm in love with my best friend. And I have thought this for a while. But I'm too afraid to say anything to her, incase I go and put our whole friendship into jepoardy. I can't seem to get her off my mind, ever. She's all I think about and I can't take it much longer. I had to let all my feelings out and ask for help. So I came to you to do these things.

What really gets to me is that she shows me affection back. Especially the last time she was over. I wish I could see into her mind, because a week ago I told her I thought I was bicurious... Because she's made me think I am. Ive only had the feelings for her though.(she doesn't know this-yet). Everytime I see her or even think about her I get butterflies. Is this a sign?

The last time she stayed over, she was so affectionate and loving. I won't go into detail but she did do alot of things shes never done before, even though I told her I was bicurious a few days before. It was like a dream come true. By that point, I actually thought that she felt the same, but she didnt mention it, neither did I. But I think we were both thinking it. Ever since that night she hasnt been the same. I haven't spoken to her properly since that night really! I'm meant to be going to meet her later, I asked her if she'll come out earlier you see. She said yes, and she'll probably end up staying over again tonight. What do I do? Does she love me back? Should I tell her how i feel?

Can you give me some advice because it's been bugging me for ages, thanks.
Lily

Dear Lily,

You really must tell your best friend! It seems that she also has feelings for you. You say she had done things the last time she stayed at your house; I assume the two of you were intimate to an extent? Things don’t “just happen” between people who don’t care for each other. It appears that the two of you spend a lot of time together and the friendship has grown. Even after you told her you were bi-curious. If you know you are falling in love with her, what harm would it be to tell her?

I understand you’re being worried about jeopardizing your friendship. However, things like this between women are much different (that is of course so long as you are both mentally stable:). And I believe in jumping into everything heart first. Women understand each other better than our male counter parts and we tend to communicate better as well. Talk to her; if she is your best friend, nothing should get in the way of that (even if the feelings of wanting to be intimate are not the same, although I think they could be).

Just be prepared that it is always possible that things don’t work out the way you want them to. You or her, or the both of you may find that you do not really like women in that way. But you never know until you try! It is also very possible that the two of you begin a wonderful relationship with each other; you already have the best friend part down! Many people with successful relationships started out as friends; neither one of them expecting to find true love.

We can’t live our lives wondering what might happen good or bad. If we did, most of us would live with a ton of regret and never find our true happiness. You can’t help who you love. It’s not as if we go searching for it; it has its way of finding us all on its own. Sometimes we just have to take a leap of faith and be confident that no matter the result, we did what was in our heart. Tell her…

Your friend,
Eda

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