He's bad in bed; do I stay or do I go?

Dear Eda,

I hate to say this but my boyfriend is really bad in bed! I have been seeing him for about few months now. I thought maybe the first time he was just nervous but things have not gotten better at all. I really don’t know what to do. I’m really attracted to him and we get along good. I like him a lot but I’m not sure I can handle a bad sex life. Do I leave or do I stay and hope for things to get better?

Dear Alisa,

Yikes! A boyfriend that is bad in bed when everything else seems to fit really bites. But all is not lost. You have one of two options:

(1) If you think this guy may be worthy of you giving him anymore of your time then you have to take action now. Explain to him what you like and what you don’t. A healthy sex life is important in any relationship. If you’re not being satisfied you have to let him know. Maybe try renting some movies; go to a local intimacy store together and check things out. And if this guy is worth his weight in gold, then he should be willing to do anything to make you happy and make this work.

(2) However, if you think that good sex should come naturally and with out much effort (which we all know it can!) and if you’re really not into putting much work into making it better, it’s only been a few months. Leave now and save yourself from the hassle of the two of you falling in love and years down the road you turning to a crappy website like Ashley Madison (in turn making a complete fool of yourself and breaking his heart).

Whichever you decide to do, never tell any man he is bad in bed. It will surely scar him for life! (Of course some one could have already clued him in on this little secret, but then again maybe not.) Because this is such a delicate matter, make sure that you approach it with respect and class.

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